Dessy Wijaya

On Children

Dessy Wijaya — Mon, 15 Jan 2024 01:39:33 +0000

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

- Kahlil Gibran

Vision

Dessy Wijaya — Mon, 24 Oct 2022 12:43:39 +0000

Trust the process.

- Inspired by Elizabeth Zenifer’s story

Mindset

Dessy Wijaya — Fri, 09 Sep 2022 05:16:47 +0000

Limit yourself to become limitless.

- Heard from William Tanuwijaya

(Co-Founder & CEO of Tokopedia)

I’m the Diamond

Dessy Wijaya — Sun, 30 Aug 2020 14:09:57 +0000

I’m a rock.
Go ahead and sear me.
I won’t budge an inch because I’m a rock.
Go ahead and beat me up.
I’m a solid rock.
Go ahead and leave me in the darkness.
I’m a rock that will shine all alone.
I don’t break, ash, nor decay as I go against nature’s way.
I survive.
I’m the diamond.

- Itaewon Class

by Rupi Kaur

Dessy Wijaya — Thu, 05 Apr 2018 07:04:58 +0000

when my mother was pregnant
with her second child i was four
i pointed at her swollen belly confused at how
my mother had gotten so big in such little time
my father scooped me in his tree trunk arms and
said the closest thing to god on this earth
is a woman’s body it’s where life comes from
and to have a grown man tell me something
so powerful at such a young age
changed me to see the entire universe
rested at my mother’s feet

- milk and honey, p 45

Weight Loss

Dessy Wijaya — Mon, 15 Jan 2018 09:49:48 +0000

Eat less
Exercise more

-Unknown

Kasih

Dessy Wijaya — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 08:09:13 +0000

Kasih itu setia

Kasih lemah lembut

Kasih murah hati

Kasih tidaklah sombong

Kasih tidak cemburu

Kasih itu panjang sabar

- Part of Kasih, Song by Mus Mulyadi

Validation

Dessy Wijaya — Fri, 27 Nov 2015 09:36:18 +0000

I would tell you that every single person you will ever meet shares that common desire.

They want to know:

‘Do you see me? Do you hear me?

Does what I say mean anything to you?’

Validate them.

‘I see you. I hear you. And what you say matters to me.’

- Oprah Winfrey

Desiderata

Dessy Wijaya — Fri, 18 Sep 2015 05:19:18 +0000

“Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be.

And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.”

– Max Ehrmann

Passion

Dessy Wijaya — Thu, 16 Jul 2015 14:33:25 +0000

What is passion really? Why do people need to have passion in his or her life? And why do people need to find it to be happy?

For me, passion is something bigger than yourself. It is something more important than yourself. Passion is what you love to do and what you will keep doing even when nobody wants to pay you for doing it. Passion is something that you do wholeheartedly until somebody find you and pay you for it. That is how powerful passion is.

That leads us to another question.

How to look for your passion? How do you know it is your passion?

I read it somewhere before, you need to stay curious and keep exploring to find out what your passion is. That’s it. How easy is that? When you were a child, there must be a time when you knew what you wanted to be when you grew up. Maybe you wanted to be a teacher, a sailorman, or even a butcher. But after you grew up, you realised that what you wanted to be when you were a child, you didn’t want it anymore. Either your environment didn’t support you or maybe you found out you didn’t really like to be a butcher or other reasons.

And that brings you to this point.

So what do I really like to do? What do I really love to do?

Steve Jobs said stay hungry, stay foolish. I say, stay curious, keep exploring. If you are interested in let’s say, music, so go find out and explore the possibility of it. You can ask yourself, what kind of music you do like, why you like it, and is it as a hobby or really something you want to do seriously for your whole life. What is the part of music that you like, is it singing the tune, or is it playing the instrument, or else. Just keep exploring. And in the end you will know, what your true calling is. What your passion is.

Every man in this world was created to do something great with his life. We has purpose for our life. We just need to keep growing and find out what it is that we are meant to do in this world. So don’t stop and don’t give up. As Steve Jobs said, don’t settle.

–This post was my writing back in Nov 2012 for AKLC test purpose. I passed – if you are curious